Motivation, Self Improvement

Girl, seriously wash your face.

This really isn’t a book review. This is a reflection of what I’ve read. I read a lot of books but never really sit and reflect upon them when I’m done. I usually just check it off my list and move right along to the next one. Not this time. I really want to reflect and since I don’t have a journal, my blog is the next best place!

Girl, Wash Your Face


Expectation before reading: I wasn’t really sure what I was wanting from this book. I’m wanting to better myself in all areas. I want to be a better mother, a better friend, a better partner. I had heard great reviews about how Rachel’s book was “in your face honest,” “full of laughter and maybe a few tears,” and “totally relatable.”  I didn’t go into the book expecting to learn anything I hadn’t already read, but I was hoping for some guidance from someone who was relatable.


Key takeaways for me:
  1. When changing anything, start with small goals.
  2. Be careful with commitments. Don’t do something out of obligation. If I don’t want to do something, don’t say yes. It’s better to say no than be considered a flake…like I am now. I really need to work on this one.
  3. Be honest with myself.
  4. Go to therapy.
  5. Reorder my priority list, especially if I feel overwhelmed.
  6. Police myself to make sure I’m not being judgmental!
  7. Be audacious.
  8. Keep goals in plain sight (I really need to make a vision board).
  9. Get out of the house, at least once a day.
  10. Focus on what I have accomplished when I start to get sad about what I haven’t.
  11. Get to therapy.
  12. Set goals, not time limits.
  13. Set priorities.
  14. Get comfortable with the idea that not everyone will approve of me.
  15. Make a bold statement.
  16. Write down goals.
  17. Say your goals aloud.
  18. Create that vision board.
  19. Enjoy creativity for the sake of creativity, not for someone’s approval.
  20. Indulge in silliness.
  21. Seriously, Lisa, go to therapy.
  22. Find courage to be honest. About everything.
  23. Seek out other truth tellers.
  24. Focus on mantras daily.
  25. Prepare in advance for things we want to do well.
  26. Edit my social media. Remove the negativity.
  27. Focus on habits.
  28. Acknowledge my reality.
  29. Remove temptations for things that aren’t healthy or good for me.
  30. Ask humble questions to things and people I am learning about.
  31. Remember, I am my own hero.

Quotes I really identified with:

“Our own negative self-talk can be more damaging than the emotional abuse heaped on us by a hateful parent. It’s also far more insidious because there’s nobody to stop it, since we rarely realize it’s happening.”  -pg. 105, Ch. 10

“God has perfect timing.” pg. 107, ch. 10

“People will treat you with as much or as little respect as you allow them to, and our dysfunctional relationship started the first time he treated me badly, and I accepted it.” pg. 51, ch. 5

“Every day you’re choosing who you are and what you believe about yourself, and you’re setting the standards for the relationships in your life. Every day is a chance to start over.” pg. 54, ch. 5

“The Creator who did all those things, believed that you and your baby were meant to be a pair. That doesn’t mean you’re going to be a perfect fit. That doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes. It does mean that you need not fear failure because you can’t fail a job you were created to do.” Pg. 87, ch 8
“I will do my best and I will trust that my best is exactly what God intended for these babies.” pg. 98

“Embrace the idea that not everyone can understand or approve of you, including those closes to you.” pg. 133

Overall, I really enjoyed Girl, Wash Your Face. There are some in-your-face truths that we all need to hear. I’m not sure it’s exactly groundbreaking material, but I’m glad I read it. It is always nice to have positive, successful female women share their stories, especially when they come from a similar background as me. Rachel Hollis could have been me so the advice she shares and the stories she tells really resonate on a personal level, much more than if a Kardashian had written it!

Reading the book is the easy part. Prioritizing those 31 take-a-ways and applying them to life will be a little more difficult. Luckily, I’m focusing on the Five to Thrive and the #90lastdays challenge, hosted by Rachel and Dave Hollis at The Chic Site so now is the perfect time to do that!