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My quest to thrive.

Something has been weighing on my mind ever since I saw my daughter mimicking my actions.

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Our kids are watching. Everything.

Now, you may be thinking, “Well, duh, I know that.” Follow me here a second. Our kids are watching. They notice when we do good habits. They notice when we do our bad habits. They repeat our actions and our words. For this reason, it’s super important to do something:

Take care of ourselves.

As I’m sitting at Starbucks, listening to The Chalene Show, she began talking about how important it is for us to take care of ourselves first. She states,

“…if I want my kids to thrive, they have to see what it means to thrive. They need to see me exercise and they need to see me being happy. They need to see me in a committed, happy, loving relationship with their father. They need to see me enjoying time with my friends. They need to see me having peace when my work is done. They need to see by me role modeling that I am enough. They need to see peace so that they can have peace. They need to know that I value myself if they’re ever going to value themselves.”

This stopped me in my tracks. I asked myself immediately, “Does my daughter see me thriving?”

Sadly, the answer is no. She sees me stumbling. She sees me trying for a few days then giving up. She sees me overweight and unhappy. She sees me cry. These things are not thriving. They are the opposite, and I would never want that for her.

So here is my game plan. Here’s how I’m going to motivate myself to be someone she sees thriving.

  1. I am going to stop drinking. Period. For the foreseeable future. Drinking limits me in many ways and I’m really starting to hate the woman I am when I’ve been drinking. This is the key to the rest of the list. It’s also the hardest because my fiancé is a drinker. I am committing to following The 30 Day Solution.
  2. I will continue exercising every day. If it means getting up early, I will. I will just start daily. On those days I don’t want to, I’ll go 10 minutes and that’s it. But I will start.
  3. I will continue to follow my meal plan and prep. A healthy body helps me feel better mentally. I’ve done good in this area, minus the drinking.
  4. I will do something daily that is just for me. Read a book. Take 20 minutes to meditate. Something that is just for me and my mental health. Every single day.

This is in writing now. I can’t take it back. I believe if I do these four things, I will begin to thrive and my daughter will see her mother being a strong, passionate, thriving woman. And in time, that is what my daughter will become.